My Wish

Being married is an interesting institution. When you are dating you still both have your separate lives. You have fun together, go out on dates, enjoy each others company then at the end of the night you go home to sleep in the middle of your own bed. When you get engaged life becomes a whirlwind of excitement with planning your wedding, bridal showers, bachlorette parties, and dreamy eyed hopes. Then you get married. You say I do and walk into real life. Your side of the bed is not the middle! Then it turns out you married every bit of each other, families and crazy people included. You both still have jobs like you did before, but now you live together and they affect each of your everyday life. You each still have your own friends, but when they drop by they aren't just dropping by his house or yours, they drop yall's  house. You each have had separate established lives, and now you have to combine all of your assets and fit them into one tiny house. You go from yours and mine, to ours! Then there are all of the outside factors that come into play. You may have known about issues that plagued your significant other, be it family, work, or other, but now you to have to deal with those issues in real time.

If you think about it Hollywood has all of these movies about love, but consider the topics. People are single and falling in love, people are single, in love, and getting engaged, and then you have the engaged and getting married movies. They all have happy endings. They end with the couple getting married. Cut! Move on to the next show. Then you have all these movies about married people. They aren't too happy, life is tough, and they get divorced. Then they fall into the single and falling in love category and so on and so forth.

I am a dreamer. I am madly in love with my husband and I want to forever feel this way about him. Our life circumstances aren't picture perfect. We both brought baggage to the relationship and now we have to deal with our lives together. This isn't a bad thing. It is nice to go through this crazy life with a person you love. However, a marriage is something that needs defending. You need to take a stance against all the crazy outside forces and put up a barrier. Protect the reason you fell in love. Protect each other from all the little things that can tear people apart.  Do everything in your power to make sure you two together are stronger then apart.

My wish is this. I hope that for the rest of our lives we take moments to just each other. Make time to go away with just each other. Hide from the rest of the world for a few weekends a year. Put on some Norah and talk about nothing other than our hopes and dreams for the future. Work talk, family talk, financial talk, and when it is time kid talk, all of it is off limits. For a few weekends a year we are in our own bubble and make our own love story movie. Keep the foundation of your love strong and powerful and everything else will work itself out.

I love my life. I am so happy I found someone to share my life and adventures with. Now I am going to hold on to it tight and make sure that whatever trials and tribulations lay ahead for us, that we are strong in our love and relationship that we can take it head on.